Ep 17: Soft Is the Strongest Thing You Can be for Yourself

Some days our inner voice is so strong it can feel debilitating. We judge ourselves harshly, compare our worst days to someone else’s best, and it feels like we’ll never be enough.

How often do you quiet your inner voice or turn the volume down and just allow yourself to be? Be in the present moment. Be still and sit with yourself. When do you give yourself the permission to just be soft with yourself?

My guest today, Kelly Covert, is an Inner Voice Coach, speaker, author and podcast host of In Her Voice podcast. The beauty of her journey has been finding a way to fail at perfection while discovering that it’s okay to be soft with yourself and just exist. Kelly helps women experience a fulfilling life connected to their purpose when they learn to listen to their true inner voice and be kinder to themselves,

“I'm tapping into how I want to feel, not trying to make sure everyone else feels okay.” -Kelly Covert

Kelly shares her insight on the trick to being soft with yourself. Letting go of perfectionism, trusting that you know what you need in the moment over a checklist or scheduled task and event is a big part of how being soft works. Turning down your inner mean girl is super hard, and there are things you tell yourself and expectations you place on yourself that make being soft feel impossible.

Ideas we explore and uncover in this episode:

• You can overcome perfectionism with self-compassion
• The ability to trust yourself is challenging, but necessary to hear your inner voice
• Being soft with yourself beautiful and it's scary because it requires you to let go

Learning to hold space with yourself and allowing yourself to sit with the emotions that are uncomfortable is hard, but it is such a necessary part of healing and feeling whole. In this episode, I also share a really difficult situation that hurts and makes me want to run and hide. There was no way around the pain and disappointment I was feeling. The best thing I could do was give myself room to process my feelings, and be soft with myself.

“When we are soft with ourselves, we also then give other people permission to be soft with themselves, and soft with us.” -Kelly Covert

Connect with Kelly Covert

Website: https://www.kellycovert.com/ 

In Her Voice Podcast: https://www.kellycovert.com/podcast 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellyjcovert/

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